They say that we attract those people who most readily resonate with our emotional vibration to enter into relationship with. Even a soul mate, someone with you share an intense attraction to, has a vibration similar to yours. The two fields when meshed "feel" right.
Although most of us think of soul mates as the perfect relationship, most often soul mates, and other forms of soul partners come into our lives to reflect back to us what we ourselves are reflecting out to the world. Many times we are simply unaware of what we are projecting and inside we may be dying to be loved, all the while thinking to ourselves that no one cares, and no one will ever love us.
Just in this past week I've come upon a few suicide cases and a close encounter suicide. I've spoken with a few people on the other side who have gone through with it. Many are very surprised to find that the pain they thought would end is still lingering. Our emotional bodies go with us, and now instead of dealing with those bodies on the physical level, their task is even a heavier burden, they must now deal with the aftermath and the original problem itself.
I've decided to write this entry today because I've noticed a prevalent pattern among these suicides and even in the ones that have attempted suicide. I think maybe most people have had tremendous emotional pain in their life, when you reach the point of thinking about suicide, you simply see no other course of action for yourself and that's where we have to start, with ourselves.
Last night I had a conversation with my son about someone at his school. She had been going to a counselor because she attempted suicide, her family, she said, didn't even care. The counselor, when she told him about some episodes she was having, openly disbelieved her and she was left struggling with her issues alone. Our conversation's summation was the prevalent need for compassion in our society. It seems it is beginning to be a rare gift.
I also spent a few hours yesterday walking along a river front in the snow looking for another man that Michael had brought to me a few days ago. I went to my normal Wednesday class and Michael was sitting outside of the building. He said they had been waiting for me. When I went in I found that a young man had gone missing a few days prior. I had seen his face the night before and knew that he had passed. He was angry and didn't want anyone to find him. He was a loner and mentioned his father. I learned that he had suffered abuse and again began to feel the sting of repeated patterns playing out at the expense of our souls.
For me both of these people and the ones I had spoken to on the other side prior all had the same kind of issues. All of them mentioned parents, all of them felt they were not good enough, couldn't be enough, or felt their parents didn't care. This all important relationship, our parents, sets the stage for so many emotional tendencies. Yet if our parents were brought up without the emotional support they needed, how are we to expect them to give us the emotional support that we need?
It circles back around to us. For these young people and those struggling now, we simply have to admit to ourselves that we can't keep trying to go back to the same well when we get nothing from it. If you have not received the kind of support you have been looking for from your parents or anyone else in your life, stop trying. You never will. They are emotionally unavailable to you and it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you, it just means you need to get support elsewhere and take some responsibility for healing yourself.
I know we all want our parents approval. We all want that pat on the back, that acceptance from our parents and the proud smile. If we don't get it from our parents, we seek it out in other people and in other relationships. If I do the right things he or she will love me. If I can prove to her or him I'm lovable I will be. Then most often we mess it up because we ourselves don't feel lovable. Simply put, we don't love ourselves.
So it all comes back to this: The man in the mirror. We must look within ourselves to find what we need. Look in the mirror openly and honestly. Accessing what we need and addressing those needs ourselves. If it's a new therapist make plans to get one, if it's time away to think, take it and if it's taking a walk or getting pampered at a spa to nurture yourself, I encourage you to do it.
Too often we look at other people to fulfill our emotional needs. The whole concept of "soul mate" the perfect partner is nonsense in that respect. Our soul mates resonate back to us lessons. How can we have a perfect partner if we don't know what the perfect partner looks like? If we don't know our needs ourselves, how can we expect someone else to fulfill them?
Feeling good about who we are starts with our own self reflection and encouragement. If you find yourself lost in thoughts that it's hopeless, that no one cares, or even that you'll never find the "perfect partner" remember to start with one person; You. Start caring about yourself enough to know you are worth it. That god himself made you out of love and the only thing, the only quest in your life worth embarking on is finding that love inside of you. That in and of itself will be something that you can give to yourself that no other so called "perfect partner" will ever be able to do for you.
Although most of us think of soul mates as the perfect relationship, most often soul mates, and other forms of soul partners come into our lives to reflect back to us what we ourselves are reflecting out to the world. Many times we are simply unaware of what we are projecting and inside we may be dying to be loved, all the while thinking to ourselves that no one cares, and no one will ever love us.
Just in this past week I've come upon a few suicide cases and a close encounter suicide. I've spoken with a few people on the other side who have gone through with it. Many are very surprised to find that the pain they thought would end is still lingering. Our emotional bodies go with us, and now instead of dealing with those bodies on the physical level, their task is even a heavier burden, they must now deal with the aftermath and the original problem itself.
I've decided to write this entry today because I've noticed a prevalent pattern among these suicides and even in the ones that have attempted suicide. I think maybe most people have had tremendous emotional pain in their life, when you reach the point of thinking about suicide, you simply see no other course of action for yourself and that's where we have to start, with ourselves.
Last night I had a conversation with my son about someone at his school. She had been going to a counselor because she attempted suicide, her family, she said, didn't even care. The counselor, when she told him about some episodes she was having, openly disbelieved her and she was left struggling with her issues alone. Our conversation's summation was the prevalent need for compassion in our society. It seems it is beginning to be a rare gift.
I also spent a few hours yesterday walking along a river front in the snow looking for another man that Michael had brought to me a few days ago. I went to my normal Wednesday class and Michael was sitting outside of the building. He said they had been waiting for me. When I went in I found that a young man had gone missing a few days prior. I had seen his face the night before and knew that he had passed. He was angry and didn't want anyone to find him. He was a loner and mentioned his father. I learned that he had suffered abuse and again began to feel the sting of repeated patterns playing out at the expense of our souls.
For me both of these people and the ones I had spoken to on the other side prior all had the same kind of issues. All of them mentioned parents, all of them felt they were not good enough, couldn't be enough, or felt their parents didn't care. This all important relationship, our parents, sets the stage for so many emotional tendencies. Yet if our parents were brought up without the emotional support they needed, how are we to expect them to give us the emotional support that we need?
It circles back around to us. For these young people and those struggling now, we simply have to admit to ourselves that we can't keep trying to go back to the same well when we get nothing from it. If you have not received the kind of support you have been looking for from your parents or anyone else in your life, stop trying. You never will. They are emotionally unavailable to you and it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you, it just means you need to get support elsewhere and take some responsibility for healing yourself.
I know we all want our parents approval. We all want that pat on the back, that acceptance from our parents and the proud smile. If we don't get it from our parents, we seek it out in other people and in other relationships. If I do the right things he or she will love me. If I can prove to her or him I'm lovable I will be. Then most often we mess it up because we ourselves don't feel lovable. Simply put, we don't love ourselves.
So it all comes back to this: The man in the mirror. We must look within ourselves to find what we need. Look in the mirror openly and honestly. Accessing what we need and addressing those needs ourselves. If it's a new therapist make plans to get one, if it's time away to think, take it and if it's taking a walk or getting pampered at a spa to nurture yourself, I encourage you to do it.
Too often we look at other people to fulfill our emotional needs. The whole concept of "soul mate" the perfect partner is nonsense in that respect. Our soul mates resonate back to us lessons. How can we have a perfect partner if we don't know what the perfect partner looks like? If we don't know our needs ourselves, how can we expect someone else to fulfill them?
Feeling good about who we are starts with our own self reflection and encouragement. If you find yourself lost in thoughts that it's hopeless, that no one cares, or even that you'll never find the "perfect partner" remember to start with one person; You. Start caring about yourself enough to know you are worth it. That god himself made you out of love and the only thing, the only quest in your life worth embarking on is finding that love inside of you. That in and of itself will be something that you can give to yourself that no other so called "perfect partner" will ever be able to do for you.
