What happens with a child when we ask them to stop doing something wrong and they don't? We might try to bargain and they still don't do what we ask of them. We then go to a threat; "If you don't clean your room now, I will take your i pod away!". Sometimes, depending on the family, you might resort to a spanking, grounding or some other type of punishment for them not doing what they are told. I see the current Syrian crisis through the same eyes.
Regardless of the action. Be it bombing, killing or stealing cookies, there is still another mindset of "conditioning" that has occurred that makes the individual "think" differently than we would like them to. With years of war and conflict in the middle east, the conditioning has not only been within the homes of many that live there, but for many of them it seems to be a way of life.
When another superimposes their expectation on another, like a parent on a child, no matter who they are, the other is forced to acquiesce. This further stunts the development of growth in the corresponding pattern of thought. This process neglects the need on one part to build internal discipline for the one who is imposed upon and on the other, makes the enforcer dependent on external forces to get things done the way they see fit. Now both sides begin to become fearful of the other and both parties become defensive instead of cooperative with understanding of the other's position. Remember, conflict is always started because there are two sets of opinions and minds, not the same one.
Whether it is in a home with children or in a country with violence, there is one underlying factor: the desire to impose another's will to gain control. Yet by doing the same superimposed methods of imposing our will, we destroy the quality of cooperation and understanding we could have. The question then might be what does this child or country need to change the direction they, he or she is currently headed in? Maybe it is time to develop emotionally, to gain a greater sense of security, or possibly to give to those our very basic human rights that are outlined in the constitution of the United States. That all men are created equal and endowed by their creator with certain inalienable rights - the right to be happy, human and empowered. Isn't that truly what we all want? Power over our own worlds with the dignity and respect from others to run our lives the way we see fit?
When we try to control another, however, instead of controlling ourselves, the balance is often lost and we loose sight of the fact that we are all at different stages of development. We loose sight of our conditioning. We are unable to perceive the others state of being for what it is and only see it for what WE think it SHOULD be. Our histories, both personal and by country, race and every other stigma of separation we have placed on people throughout the centuries have all contributed to who we are today. We cannot expect anything more from who we have become. Country or person, we are limited internally by the conditioning and beliefs we have come to know. To us, there is no other way and we will defend our persons and beliefs any way we have been taught to do so. There will always be "other" opinions, other thoughts of war and control. The crazy part is that everyone still seems to think we can stop it by using the same minds that started it - violence. Why can't we just have the United Nations stand for what it started for - to protect humanity. The basic rule: Thou shall not kill. Those that do or order others to do it for them are captured themselves and like a bad child, placed somewhere where they cannot harm themselves or others. Why should anyone, country, or person come and harm the innocent people around the one that has decided to do the deed? It would be like coming in and bombing a classroom because one of the kids decided to bring a gun to school and shoot his classmates. Is it really this hard to fix or have we just lost sight of going to the root of the problem and grown accustom to a temporary fix?
Compassion begins when we begin to look at one another from the inside out. We are not simple beings our selves, we cannot simplify someone else so quickly either.
Regardless of the action. Be it bombing, killing or stealing cookies, there is still another mindset of "conditioning" that has occurred that makes the individual "think" differently than we would like them to. With years of war and conflict in the middle east, the conditioning has not only been within the homes of many that live there, but for many of them it seems to be a way of life.
When another superimposes their expectation on another, like a parent on a child, no matter who they are, the other is forced to acquiesce. This further stunts the development of growth in the corresponding pattern of thought. This process neglects the need on one part to build internal discipline for the one who is imposed upon and on the other, makes the enforcer dependent on external forces to get things done the way they see fit. Now both sides begin to become fearful of the other and both parties become defensive instead of cooperative with understanding of the other's position. Remember, conflict is always started because there are two sets of opinions and minds, not the same one.
Whether it is in a home with children or in a country with violence, there is one underlying factor: the desire to impose another's will to gain control. Yet by doing the same superimposed methods of imposing our will, we destroy the quality of cooperation and understanding we could have. The question then might be what does this child or country need to change the direction they, he or she is currently headed in? Maybe it is time to develop emotionally, to gain a greater sense of security, or possibly to give to those our very basic human rights that are outlined in the constitution of the United States. That all men are created equal and endowed by their creator with certain inalienable rights - the right to be happy, human and empowered. Isn't that truly what we all want? Power over our own worlds with the dignity and respect from others to run our lives the way we see fit?
When we try to control another, however, instead of controlling ourselves, the balance is often lost and we loose sight of the fact that we are all at different stages of development. We loose sight of our conditioning. We are unable to perceive the others state of being for what it is and only see it for what WE think it SHOULD be. Our histories, both personal and by country, race and every other stigma of separation we have placed on people throughout the centuries have all contributed to who we are today. We cannot expect anything more from who we have become. Country or person, we are limited internally by the conditioning and beliefs we have come to know. To us, there is no other way and we will defend our persons and beliefs any way we have been taught to do so. There will always be "other" opinions, other thoughts of war and control. The crazy part is that everyone still seems to think we can stop it by using the same minds that started it - violence. Why can't we just have the United Nations stand for what it started for - to protect humanity. The basic rule: Thou shall not kill. Those that do or order others to do it for them are captured themselves and like a bad child, placed somewhere where they cannot harm themselves or others. Why should anyone, country, or person come and harm the innocent people around the one that has decided to do the deed? It would be like coming in and bombing a classroom because one of the kids decided to bring a gun to school and shoot his classmates. Is it really this hard to fix or have we just lost sight of going to the root of the problem and grown accustom to a temporary fix?
Compassion begins when we begin to look at one another from the inside out. We are not simple beings our selves, we cannot simplify someone else so quickly either.
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