When we allow ourselves to trust, we are saying to ourselves "I trust you to take care of my needs." Sometimes the people we trust are incapable of doing so and we end up hurt. Sometimes when we trust a friend and they break our confidence it ends on a sour note. Sometimes when someone stabs us in the back with lies and deceit, we lose our sense of trust and close ourselves off to the world.
More and more people these days seem to be doing just that. We have a whole world full of people looking so desperately to trust someone, with no one to trust. Family dysfunction, jealousy, and hatred of all kinds abound. People view the world and people as "what's in it for me", instead of "what more can I give?".
When trust is involved it makes it more difficult. You really don't know who you can trust until you give the relationship some time. The employer that makes promises, the friend who swears they will be there, or the new boyfriend or girlfriend that proclaims their fidelity. In time you learn that you can or can't trust someone based on their actions. Yet we must "allow" for simple trust to know the truth.
Allowance is something that can give you a barometer on any relationship or even yourself. When you allow, you are open to allow the other person to be who they are. Your observance then, is in the actions they take and not the words they speak. For yourself, it can be the same. Learning to trust yourself is as important as being able to trust another person. When you allow yourself to witness your own actions you observe yourself and see if they match what you say. Chances are if they don't, you may not be "trust worthy" yourself and in that case you can't expect to ask for something you can't give.
But if you can trust yourself, you will always know if you can trust another person. It's in the knowing yourself part, what a trust worthy person looks and acts like, that makes it clear.
Sometimes the only problem is that we don't listen to our inner wisdom. Our need to trust and be loved may silence that inner voice or we may choose to "pretend" it's not there. Yet "pretending" can lead us into trouble. "Pretending" only means we have entered into "denial."
Denial allows the details we already know to predict the outcome to silently float by us like life preservers, and while we may enjoy the comfortable "belief" that all is well, there is soon a price to pay for the daydream. The inevitability of the outcome soon rears its ugly head. In retrospect we review the situation or relationship and find we already knew what would happen, we just chose to look the other way.
Perhaps it's time to decide not to deny yourself the freedom to choose what's best for you and trust and allow yourself to live fully knowing who and what you can trust and allow into your life.
Observe the clip below. You might notice "Buddy" the elf was given a clear warning before he tried to "hug" a stranger. Was it Buddy who needed the hug, or the raccoon? Sometimes the things we think others need are the exact things we ourselves need. We just need to be careful of who we go to to get them and the signs they show us to let us know where they stand.
More and more people these days seem to be doing just that. We have a whole world full of people looking so desperately to trust someone, with no one to trust. Family dysfunction, jealousy, and hatred of all kinds abound. People view the world and people as "what's in it for me", instead of "what more can I give?".
When trust is involved it makes it more difficult. You really don't know who you can trust until you give the relationship some time. The employer that makes promises, the friend who swears they will be there, or the new boyfriend or girlfriend that proclaims their fidelity. In time you learn that you can or can't trust someone based on their actions. Yet we must "allow" for simple trust to know the truth.
Allowance is something that can give you a barometer on any relationship or even yourself. When you allow, you are open to allow the other person to be who they are. Your observance then, is in the actions they take and not the words they speak. For yourself, it can be the same. Learning to trust yourself is as important as being able to trust another person. When you allow yourself to witness your own actions you observe yourself and see if they match what you say. Chances are if they don't, you may not be "trust worthy" yourself and in that case you can't expect to ask for something you can't give.
But if you can trust yourself, you will always know if you can trust another person. It's in the knowing yourself part, what a trust worthy person looks and acts like, that makes it clear.
Sometimes the only problem is that we don't listen to our inner wisdom. Our need to trust and be loved may silence that inner voice or we may choose to "pretend" it's not there. Yet "pretending" can lead us into trouble. "Pretending" only means we have entered into "denial."
Denial allows the details we already know to predict the outcome to silently float by us like life preservers, and while we may enjoy the comfortable "belief" that all is well, there is soon a price to pay for the daydream. The inevitability of the outcome soon rears its ugly head. In retrospect we review the situation or relationship and find we already knew what would happen, we just chose to look the other way.
Perhaps it's time to decide not to deny yourself the freedom to choose what's best for you and trust and allow yourself to live fully knowing who and what you can trust and allow into your life.
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Observe the clip below. You might notice "Buddy" the elf was given a clear warning before he tried to "hug" a stranger. Was it Buddy who needed the hug, or the raccoon? Sometimes the things we think others need are the exact things we ourselves need. We just need to be careful of who we go to to get them and the signs they show us to let us know where they stand.
