The Man in the Mirror Project - Looking in the Mirror

We begin to heal ourselves when we start to face the truth about our realities and not the stories that we have made up about ourselves and other people along the way.  The shroud of mystery is taken off and for the first time perhaps you are able to look at yourself in a brand new way.

Realization of the truth takes some time and effort.  Like a lie that is spread in the mass consciousness, we ourselves tell ourselves daily the lies we want or need to believe.  After some time they become our truths and it takes a great deal of effort to expose those lies and release them into the light.

We often can start by looking at patterns in our lives.  Are there certain events that continue to happen in your life, certain circumstances, a certain kind of person?  Most often these are clues to some of the patterns at play inside of us that we haven't taken notice of, or have taken notice of, but have yet to work through them.  When there are thoughts about ourselves or thoughts that have been placed by other people like your mother saying you are too fat, or your father saying you'll never amount to anything; They can sometimes be very difficult to overcome.  We tend to believe them and in doing so, we FEEL that way about ourselves as well.

Louise Hay has a wonderful way of setting affirmations for thoughts like these. Try the following exercise from her book "You Can Heal Your Life" regarding some of the patterns in our lives:

Thoughts create our future experiences.  The words we speak are indicative of our inner thoughts.  Sometimes, the words used don't match experiences we describe.  These are the lies we believe.  So begin to unravel them start with a list:

Get a pad and pen and write on top of the paper "I Should".  Make a list of five or six ways to finish that sentence.  Sometimes it's difficult to start, sometimes it's difficult to stop! (lol) But list at least five and when you are done return to the first one and working yourself down again ask yourself  "Why?".Write the response next to the "I Should" statement.  Again working from the top, notice your responses and ask yourself if they are true.  Most often responses are something like this:

My mother said I should

Because I am afraid not to

Because I have to be perfect

Everybody does it.

I am too lazy, too short, too tall, too fat, too thin, too dumb, too ugly, too old, too young

Again starting from the top re read the list one at a time but this time begin each sentence by saying "If I really wanted to I could . . . "  Then, "Why haven't you?"  Now you may see yourself circle back to the original "shoulds" and the pattern is exposed.  You are free to choose to change your life in this moment.

Have a great weekend of new beginnings and enlightening experiences.:)